{What's the Hurry?}

Ir and I were having the final moments of "girl-talk" in the waiting room while J, SY and the other "sisters" were out instructing Mr Yeo and brothers with the sour, sweet, bitter, spicy challenges.

Prior to any of us getting married, we were always talking about finding Mr Right, settling down and having our own families. Getting married was one of the key goals for most, if not all of us.

Moments before the groom came to fetch his bride, we had a lil "talk".

Now that getting married has become a reality for most of us, it dawned upon us that really, there was no need to be in such a hurry. Was it pressure from the fact that there was an ideal "age" attached to marriage, or was it just a lack of security of being on our own? There's so many things we can do as singles that would be different once we get married. To name a few (some of the points below were added by myself just as I was typing...):

• Pay cheque used to be ours and ours alone. Now, we have to put part of it in the "joint-account".
• We used to be able to go out any night to however late we want. Now, it's different (for most of us, other than SY.). For those of us living with in-laws, there's always a consideration to not go out too late, too often, without our spouse. It's just not nice. For those of us who are living on our own, going out without our spouses, meant texting and wondering if he's doing fine without us. 
• We used to be able to just plan for a trip and go off to wherever we want, with whoever we want, for however long we want. Now, trips have to be planned around each other's schedule.
• We used to be able to go on dates with different people, there was a certain anticipation, not knowing that gives it that excitement. Now the only dates we go on are those that we either discussed about, or are what we call the couple's regular hang-outs.
• We used to be answerable to one set of parents, now it's two.
• We used to just hang out with one set of relatives, now it's two.
• Our time used to be ours and ours alone, now it's split between couple time, his family time, my family time, work time, his friends time, my friends time and finally our little time for ourselves... so busy.
• And more...

So really, what's the hurry? To all the singles, take your time.

As we were chatting on, and KP was getting close to the door where we were, we started talking about all the good things about getting married (some of the points below were added by myself just as I was typing...)

• The comfort of knowing that at the end of a bad day, there's always someone there to hold you and say it's all well I'm here; at the end of a good day, there's always someone there to celebrate with us.
• The "high" of having not just one but two pay cheques to depend on and the occasional, "I've got my bonus, would you like to go bag shopping?" perks me up instantly.
• The joy of being taken care, loved and pampered by not just one but two sets of parents.
• The fun of having not just one but two sets of cousins to grow up with.
• The security of knowing that he's the one. No more questions. No more uncertainties. No more what ifs. IT IS.
• For some, the satisfaction of owning and designing your very first home.

Getting married no longer allow us to do things based on simply "how we feel". It's about a commitment and a decision that was made to spend the rest of our lives togethe. We no longer go with how we "feel" towards that person, that we can love this person one day and unlove them the next day, or choose to walk out when we feel like it. It's a promise, a commitment, a decision, a responsibility.

Just before he came through, we had some time to pray...it was a beautiful moment.

Life is a journey. We are all in different phases of our lives. Some got married 10 years ago, Ir got married just yesterday. Some are on their way to Mr Right.

We've been through it all together as a group. Growing up together. Making mistakes together. Gossiping together. Laughing at each other. Lending that shoulder to cry on. Shedding light to situations.

We're all grown up and still growing...

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